Online Premarital Counseling

You’re getting married! Congrats! It’s time to pick a caterer, a photographer, a florist, and a therapist.

Hold up. Did you say therapist?

Yes, I did!

I’m partially joking because if you are reading this page, I’m guessing you understand the value of premarital counseling.

However, I also know that you might still have some questions about what exactly will be covered in premarital counseling and if it is the right choice for you and your partner.

Premarital counseling (also called premarital therapy) is focused on prevention and enhancing the positive qualities of the relationship. It also helps identify and resolve potential areas of concern before they become big issues.

Premarital therapy involves assessments, education, and guidance to prepare you for a lasting and happy marriage.

FAQ regarding premarital counseling:

What will we do in session?

Here are some of the topics I cover in my work with premarital couples.

Assessment – Learn about each other’s emotional needs, personality types, communication styles and more using various assessment measures based on your individual needs.

 

Communication – It’s always important to set the groundwork of effective communication before getting into the hard stuff. And trust me, there will be hard stuff that comes up in your marriage no matter how perfect you are for each other. If you know how to talk about issues as they arise, you’ll likely have many fewer and less severe issues throughout your marriage. I teach couples specific communication techniques that include learning how to empathize with and validate each other to make sure both parties feel heard and understood.

 

Once you know how to communicate, then we can start getting into some other topics.

 

Topics we may discuss include but are not limited to:

  • Your vision for the future
  • What makes you feel loved and cared about
  • Toxic behaviors to avoid
  • The latest research on what makes a marriage work
  • Routines and rituals to keep your marriage strong
  • Kids
  • Money
  • Sex
  • Religion
  • Values
  • Politics
  • Personal hopes & dreams

 

This is just a general list of topics you may discuss in premarital therapy. The process will be slightly different for everyone and tailored to your specific wants and needs as a couple.

But won’t that stir things up unnecessarily?

I get that some of you may be worried about seeing a therapist because you don’t want to “rock the boat” or start trouble where there is none. Premarital therapy is NOT about creating problems and starting fights. It’s about preventing problems, deepening your connection, getting to know each other better than ever, and getting clear on your values and expectations for marriage and your future life together.

Do we really need to pay someone to learn how to be in a relationship? Shouldn’t that just come naturally?

Think of premarital therapy this way – If you started a new job and they gave you NO formal training and just told you to learn by watching your superiors, do you think you’d be successful? I’m guessing not. You’d probably feel completely lost, confused, angry, and like a failure. You might even want to quit.

 

So why do you expect yourself to know how to have the perfect relationship (arguably the most important job of your life) with no formal training?

 

Too many couples jump into marriage thinking they can just figure it out on their own and are shocked at how hard things feel after the honeymoon is over. Many couples develop toxic communication patterns or stop communicating at all and slowly slip further and further away from the loving, compassionate, relationship they use to have. Much of this is preventable by learning some basic strategies and tools for making a marriage work from the beginning.

If you would like to learn more about how premarital therapy can help your relationship, discuss financial considerations, and determine if working together is a good fit, schedule a free 30 minute consultation below.