Do you have anxiety in relationships? Do you feel like you are always waiting for your partner to disappoint you - or worse yet - leave you? Do you find it hard to let your walls down and be truly vulnerable? Is it hard for you to fully commit to someone or get someone to fully commit to you? Do you have a history of failed relationships? If so, you may have an insecure attachment style.
Our attachment style develops in early childhood based on how we were raised. None of us had a choice about our attachment style and it is not your fault if you have an insecure attachment style. The good news is, it doesn't have to be this way forever. As an adult, you can learn how to have an earned secure attachment and find the joy, trust, and freedom you crave in relationships.
Your attachment style describes how you act and feel in romantic relationships. Your attachment style develops from birth to 18 months based on how your parents or caregivers responded to your needs for connection, safety and freedom. There are 4 different attachment styles - Secure, Avoidant, Anxious and Anxious/Avoidant. Everything other than secure attachment is considered insecure attachment. You'll learn more about the 4 different types of attachment in the course but here is a brief description of the difference between insecure and secure attachment.
People with an insecure attachment style often feel like they are waiting for the other shoe to drop in relationships. They go into relationships expecting to be hurt or let down and they often are. Many insecurely attached individuals feel stuck in an unhealthy relationship or are single and skeptical about finding a relationship that can truly stand the test of time.
In contrast, people with a secure attachment style go into relationships with confidence, expecting that the relationship will be a positive experience and that things will work out. They trust others, work through conflict relatively easily, and tend to have positive, healthy relationships.
What you'll learn in the course:
Our interactive curriculum guides you to cultivating a secure attachment for a more fulfilling relationship. Each module includes a teaching video, journal prompts, and discussion topics to help you dive deeper into the materials and apply them to your internal experience and your relationship (or a future relationship). The course is self-study and can be done at your own pace from the comfort of your home.
Identify Your Attachment Style
Take our assessment to determine your attachment style. Explore your attachment style in-depth and learn how it impacts your relationship(s). You'll also learn how to identify other people's attachment style.
Discover Your Love Template
You'll be guided through a process to uncover how your childhood influences your attachment style, how you show up in relationship(s) and the types of people you're attracted to.
A crucial aspect of secure functioning is healthy communication. This module teaches you how to communicate openly, assertively, and non-defensively.
Securely attached individuals are skilled at managing conflict. We'll teach you how to fight fair and communicate your needs in a healthy way, creating a win-win scenario.
Connection & Vulnerability
Vulnerability is key for creating an authentic and secure connection. We'll help you identify your personal vulnerabilities and teach you how to be vulnerable (but with boundaries).
Trust is an important part of any secure functioning relationship. This section focuses on building trust and emotional safety - first with yourself and then with others.
Healthy boundaries are essential in any relationship. You'll learn what boundaries are, how to identify them for yourself, and how to express them without offending or alienating anyone.
The Couple Bubble
Secure functioning couples create a couple bubble that separates them from the rest of the world. This section teaches you how to create that whether you are in a relationship now or not.
Ready to feel safe, secure, & happy in relationships?
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Hanna Stensby, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in healing attachment trauma and creating secure attachments for individuals and couples. Prior to her work with couples, Hanna worked with adopted children and their families to create secure attachments as they transitioned into their new homes.